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\"Cobweb<\/a>Many of us have been templated with the idea that to put ourselves first is selfish and wrong.
\nI encourage you to consider whether you hold to the template that creates guilt when you make a decision to put yourself first.
\nTo step into optimal health, I recommend that you let go of the belief that you serve others best by serving yourself second.
\nI hold strong that the opposite is true.
\nWhen you align to your truest essence, that is when you serve others most efficiently.
\nMost effectively.
\nOptimally.
\n\"IMG_0688\"<\/a>The old template where the woman and\/or the man of the house plays martyr is best set aside for the history books.
\nFor generations, we have modeled for our children this suboptimal template.
\nOne can ease into this new mindset.
\nJust as easily it can happen overnight.<\/p>\n

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Simple tool: \u00a0ask questions.
\nHow can I follow my passion and my family be optimally supported at the same time?
\nAm I willing to admit to myself what I really want?
\nHow can I pursue my dreams?\"IMG_0311\"<\/a>
\nHow can I create an optimal life for myself?
\nWhere I thrive.
\nWhere I look forward to waking up in the morning and engaging in my day.
\nWhere the day ends with fulfilment.
\nOnly in your dreams you ask?
\nI warmly recommend that you question how you came to doubt your true essence and capabilities.<\/p>\n

Another simple tool: look for solutions.
\nHow can I make following my dreams win-win?
\nEvery member of my family is optimally supported.
\nBy design that includes me.
\n\"IMG_0119\"<\/a>When I do this for myself, I model for my children how to create a fulfilling life.
\nIf I choose to play martyr to the wishes and needs of the other members in my family over my own wishes and needs, that is a strong education I give to my children.
\nHow to remain unfulfilled in life.
\nNot an optimal lesson.
\nI am so bold as to say that none of us would consciously choose this.<\/p>\n

Third tool: question assumptions.
\nThe most important assumption to question…\"IMG_0686\"<\/a>
\nThere is a commonly held assumption that the way we have been running as families is the optimal way.
\nIt is not.<\/p>\n

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Just as in the music industry, we all benefit from doing a\u00a0cover<\/em><\/strong> on the authentic family.
\nWe take the good and we tweak it.
\nWe upgrade it.
\nWe recognize that we are all pioneers.
\nScientists experimenting with this most fundamental ecosystem.
\nThe modern family.<\/p>\n

\"IMG_0854\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Be authentic.
\nA tall order if overly connected to societal norms.
\nMy translation of normal: suboptimal.
\nGo for optimal.
\nThe optimal caregiver starts with him or herself.
\nWhen one gets that right<\/em><\/strong>, better termed optimally, it ripples out to others with ease and grace.
\n<\/em><\/strong>Mark my words.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Addendum:
\nHint: The optimal caregiver has Energy.
\nWakes feeling refreshed.
\nFalls asleep most nights with a smile in their heart, in their soul.
\nThey nurture resilience and independence\u00a0within themselves.
\nThey nurture resilience and independence\u00a0in all of the sovereign beings in their care.\"IMG_0847\"<\/a>
\nThey value the importance of love and attention.
\nThe basic human need to be heard.
\nTo be seen.
\nTo be honoured.
\nTo be loved unconditionally.
\nIs given optimal attention.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

We all strive to do our best.
\nOur best is a moving target.
\nSome days we are more capable than other days.
\nWe understand this.
\nWe accept this.
\nWe are this.
\nWe are human beings.
\nIn an optimal world, we are authentic and free.
\nFreedom can take a little crafting sometimes.\"13076715_10153393120826150_8058143179364559963_n\"<\/a>
\nBe the craftsman of your authentic life.
\nIf it is not already it will be beautiful … By design.<\/p>\n

(1000)<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Ellen Degeneres<\/strong> <\/a>offers a similar message in this 4 minute video.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

True To Myself <\/strong><\/a>Ziggy Marley (701)<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Will post on my Authentic Family Facebook Page but it applies equally well to professional caregivers.
\n<\/strong>All ranges of therapists, doctors, nurses etc.
\nWrote April 27, 2016<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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